A widespread misconception about "forgiveness" is the mistaken notion that forgiveness always means forgetting. The well meaning advice goes like this, "If you still remember, then you haven't really forgiven."
However, forgiveness often necessitates the wisdom of remembering! When the safety of a person or a person's children is involved, a prudent and sensible person remembers the issue. In order to protect oneself or one's children from abuse and danger, remembering is actually required! Yet, one chooses not to personally punish the perpetrator ...